We ended the last post in this series discussing the consequences of not waiting. So, now we have to focus on how to spend our meantime. In the meantime, BE CONFIDENT! BE SEXY! BE YOU! Your meantime is the time between now and you meeting the man God has pre-ordained to be in your life. During our meantime, we must be women who control our emotions. In order to do that, we must ignore our fleshly desires (die to ourselves) so that we can listen for the Holy Spirit’s direction (John 14:26).
BEING CONFIDENT means being self – assured (sometimes easier said than done). How you see yourself is more important than how others see you. How you see yourself determines how others see you. When you feel good about yourself, that feeling manifests itself in the way you carry yourself.
BEING SEXY doesn’t mean that you have to have sex (see below). It simply means putting effort into and taking pride in your physical appearance. After all, physical attraction is usually what causes the first spark. If there is nothing to make him take a second look, he won’t learn what a nice young lady you really are. But, remember to leave something to his imagination. This way you won’t cause your brother to stumble (1 Corinthians 8:9 and Romans 14:13). Invest a little time in your appearance. Join a gym. Wear clothing that flatter. Your size doesn’t matter, just be healthy. But, by no means is physical appearance everything. Your spiritual growth and maturity are top priorities. Besides, by now, we know that everything that glitters isn’t gold.
BEING YOUrself is another key factor. When you try to be someone you aren’t, it shows. You stick out like a sore thumb and come across as awkward. You should want anyone who falls in love with you to fall in love with the real you, not your representative.
I know that it seems as though even “church boys” are superficial. They seem to want bible carrying, solo singing, meal cooking, gym loving model look-a-likes as girlfriends and wives. They want women who look like they’ve just walked off the runway into the sanctuary. But, you shouldn’t be concerned about that. My males friends tell me that all that isn’t necessary. More importantly, the bible tells us that our beauty should not come from outward adornment (1 Peter 3:3 and 1 Timothy 2:9-10). Instead, it should come from within because the inner beauty of a gentle, quiet doesn’t fade. In order to develop that type of beauty, we must study God’s word. Studying God’s word will equip us to adorn ourselves with pure hearts, a peaceful spirit and godliness.
I have a friend who often tells me that I am “shy about certain things.” When he says this, I deny being shy. I like him. He knows that I like him. But, telling him that would be traumatic. So, with regard to my alleged shyness, I think that I have simply been exercising restraint (as it relates to my emotions).
So, during the meantime, pray for the ability to control your emotions, be patient and grow in grace. Also pray for strength not to manipulate situations. God is faithful. He knows your needs, and he will fulfill your desires. I pray that you find joy in God and his word so that he will give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4).
Peace and blessings!
FOCUS SCRIPTURE: “See, I am doing a new thing. Now, it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the desert.” Isaiah 43:19
P.P.S. Stay tunes for Part V – the final installment in the series.