How Much is Too Much?

Hey everybody! It has been a while! 😦 My apologies.

Have you ever done something for someone only to have someone else say that you are being “too nice” or doing “too much”? Have you ever had a friend or family member tell you that the people or person you are exhibiting kindness toward would not do the same for you, for whatever reason – inability, lack of desire, etc.? Well, that has happened to me 4 different times within the past few weeks. The people who have asked me this shall remain nameless. I’m sure they will thank me when they read this and realize I am talking about them. 🙂

After each conversation, I stopped and asked myself, “Am I doing too much?” I didn’t ask whether the people would do it for me. That wasn’t and isn’t important. Of course, I’d like to hope so, but whether they would reciprocate was not a factor. I have come to the realization that the highest expression of love is to give without expecting ANYTHING in return.

The bible says, treat others the way you want to be treated, but only if you feel they can and will return the favor treat others the way you want to be treated — period. There are no conjunctions, such as IF or WHEN. It says, “So, in everything, do to others what you would want them to do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 7:12  There is a other verse – Luke 6:31 that reads, “Do to others as you would have them do to you.”

We all have a desire to be treated in a loving manner. If we are only kind and giving to those who we think can and will return the favor, we have gained nothing. If we only treat others the way they treat us or decide to give to others based upon their ability to give to us, we aren’t acting in love. 1 Corinthians 16:14 tells us that we must do EVERYTHING in LOVE.  The rest will take care of itself. Our actions allow others to see Christ’s love manifested through us, and if as a result of our acts of kindness, someone is drawn closer to Him, then all is well.  Actually, it is better than well. It. Is. Awesome!

If you are like me – a person who dives into projects for others with complete focus until it is completed – something to keep in mind is not to be generous to the point that is works to your emotional, physical or even financial detriment. Remember, it is all about loving others as yourself (you still have to love yourself) and treating others the way you want to be treated – not how you are treated or how you think you would want to be treated if you were in the same situation.

That’s all for now.

Peace,

Nefertara

P.S. I finally made it to a Braves game.  The Braves won AND I got a waffle from Waffle House (newly added to the list of vendors at Turner Field) .  In my book, it was a great evening!

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