Do You Have a Gentle and Quiet Spirit?


You should clothe yourselves instead with beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. – 1 Peter 3:4 (NLT)

So many times we focus on finding the right person, when instead our focus should be on becoming the right person. Recently, during a moment of self-reflection, I realized (I guess I’ve always known, so a better statement would be) I thought about the fact that I can be opinionated, talkative (this comes from  being the only child of parents who valued my opinion) and silly. Then I thought about Peter’s words (above). Finally, I wondered whether a woman actually has to be quiet and introverted to be considered the possessor of a gentle and quiet spirit. I’ve pondered this before, but never for any length of time.

This time, I came to the conclusion that I don’t think a woman necessarily has to be quiet in order to have a gentle and quiet spirit. I think a gentle, quiet spirit is exhibited through:

  • optimism
  • encouraging others and speaking life into situations
  • living what you preach
  • being humble, loving and generous
  • being helpful, genuine, honest, trusting (a struggle for me) and trustworthy
  • being a reflection of God’s love and grace
  • exercising self-control, patience and contentment
  • exercising wisdom in thought, word and deed
  • being submissive (to your husband)

The more I thought about my desire to be the best me I could possibly be, the more I realized I don’t have to be introverted in order to exhibit a gentle, quiet spirit. But, at the same time, I know I have work to do. What about you? This sought after spirit is exhibited in our actions and reactions. We show others our gentle, quiet spirits when we are slow to anger, when we think before we speak and when we show others the grace God shows us.

Not only is a gentle, quiet spirit attractive to men, it is pleasing to God. Whether you are married or single, the pursuit of a gentle and quiet spirit is part of God’s calling on my life our lives as women of God whose desire is to bring glory to him and his kingdom.  A gentle, quiet spirit is the key to all relationships, particularly god-honoring marital relationships.

Having a gentle and quiet spirit is not a sign of weakness. In fact, it is just the opposite – a sign of strength. It takes strength to exercise control over your emotions (anger, resentment, irritability, frustration, etc.). This is strength that we do not have on our own. This strength comes from the Holy Spirit. If you are pursuing a more gentle and more quiet spirit (as I am), draw close to God. He will provide the strength you need.

For me, what having a gentle, quiet spirit boils down (in addition to the characteristics mentioned above) to is choosing your battles. For the glory of God to be manifested in our lives, we must exhibit a gentle, quiet spirit in all aspects of our lives (thoughts, words and deeds).

You may disagree with my assessment or you may have your own thoughts about what characteristics lend themselves to a gentle and quiet spirit. Either way, please share.

Thanks and Love,


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2 thoughts on “Do You Have a Gentle and Quiet Spirit?

  1. Good stuff! I think that if the Holy Spirit is the lens through which we view everything, we will always have occassion to examine ourselves in this way. The draw of a quiet and gentle spirit is the fact that it’s approachable, inviting and accommodating. As Christians and potentially wives and mothers, it’s a necessity. Enjoyed this:).

    • I agree with you, and approachable, inviting and accommodating are great characteristics that align with a gentle, quiet spirit. Thanks for sharing and reading!

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