I am a Christian woman. I do not profess to speak for all Christian women, but I think what you will read below are issues of common consent among those of us women who are Christians. Men and women are different – physically, emotionally and relationally. But, it is important that we understand each other. In an effort to assist in this, I thought I’d share a few things we wish every Christian man knew.
1) We are not perfect just because we love God. Learn to accept our imperfections. We accept yours.
2) Selfishness is unattractive.
3) Apathy is extremely unattractive.
4) Ambition is sexy. Just keep that in mind.
5) Don’t be jealous of our relationships with our fathers. They set strong examples of a what a Christian man is supposed to be and do. One day, your daughter will love, respect and admire you the same way.
6) We are not afraid of strong men. Just because we are capable (and required to before you came into our lives) doesn’t mean we want to do everything ourselves.
7) Please go easy on the alcohol.
8) Authentic Christian women are nuturers. That does not mean we are auditioning to be your wife. But, it doesn’t hurt if you take notice.
9) We are not like the other women who have hurt you in the past.
10) We live out loud. That doesn’t mean we’re uncouth, unraised or anything else that makes us bad people. It just means that we live and love on purpose.
11) Make us feel safe – emotionally and physically – and our world is your oyster.
12) You don’t have to be the preacher or a deacon, but actively pursuing God is a must!
13) We want to be included – not just in the fun, easy parts of the relationship, but the hard stuff that shows you trust us and the not so easy stuff that builds the character of the relationship.
14) Don’t gas us up – as my friend says. Do what you say. Say what you mean. It is not necessary to make promises that you can’t keep or say things simply because you think we want to hear them. Simply put, actions speak louder than words.
15) Just because we are domestic goddesses and can whip up a gourmet meal in minutes,keep the house clean and look nice, all while working full time – making it all look effortless does not mean we don’t want to feel appreciated.
16) Christian. Men. Lead. Point blank, period.
In return for understanding and realizing these things about us and our thought processes, we will do our very best 1) to show our appreciation more, 2) to make room for you to lead, 3) not to nag and 4) not to allow outsiders to influence our behavior, especially within the relationship.
What do you think of his list? Is there anything that should be added? If so, feel free to post it in the comments. And share it with your favorite Christian Man. 🙂
Peace & Blessings,