Word of the Year – 2015

Happy New Year!!! Better late than never. Right? Right! Instead of New Year’s Resolutions, I’m all about a word of the year (at least for the past 2 years). 🙂 2015 will be the third year I have chosen a word of the year. I actually chose this word before the end of 2014, but I just haven’t taken (I won’t say I haven’t had, because we all know we make time for the things we want to make time for.) the time to sit down and complete the post.

The purpose of a word of the year is to choose a word that reflects what you most want to change about yourself or a word that reflects what you want God to do in, through or with you and then concentrate on that word for the entire year.

For 2013 my word was surrender.

For 2014 my word was praise.

For 2015 my words are Discipline/Focus.

I felt that discipline and focus were so interrelated that I could not separate them. After all, you need discipline to focus on areas of your life that need attention. Therefore, I have 2 words this year.

Discipline (n): an activity, exercise or regimen that assists you in developing a skill.

Focus (v): to pay particular attention to.

My focus verse for the year is Titus 1:8 Rather, [s]he must be hospitable, a lover of good, self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined. 

In that context, disciplined means to exhibit a controlled manner of behavior. At this point in my life, I feel that I truly need discipline so that I can focus on accomplishing my goals – deepening my walk with God, building a client base for my legal practice, launching a marketing plan for Sugarcoated and resuming my exercise regimen. All of these things are essential to my happiness and health (mental and physical).

I need to be disciplined as it relates to the way I go about accomplishing my goals. If you, like me, need the discipline to focus OR need to be disciplined as it relates to your life’s goals, here are three steps that will help you:

  1. Fix Your Focus on God
  2. Accept God’s help
  3. Adopt a Plan

In such a busy world, many of us can’t, don’t or won’t focus on God because of ringing phones, pinging text messages, meeting reminders, the requirements of personal and home life and the chirping Facebook, Instagram and Twitter notifications. These things get our attention before God.

We don’t seek and accept God’s help because we live in a world where we seek instant gratification. We try to figure things out for ourselves.

We don’t adopt plans because we fly by the seats of our pants. We’ve all heard the phrase, “When you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” We try one method for a while, then we see that someone else is going about it a different way and we decide to try their way.

We all need more focus in some area(s) of our lives. What do you need discipline to focus on? If you like me need discipline to focus, here is a prayer for you to pray.

Dear Father,

Give us a heart that surrenders to you and your will. Grant us the discipline necessary to focus on you, your purpose for our lives and our goals. Bring about focus so that we aren’t distracted by the details and busyness of our lives. In your son, Jesus’ name we pray. Amen.

Wishing you Blessings throughout the New Year,

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My One Night Stand

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Now that I have your attention, I’ll get to the real point. 🙂 Being a Christian Single can be difficult. With that being the case, I look for every opportunity to strengthen my resolve. Several weeks ago I attended a singles conference sponsored by the I.M.A.G.E. Ministry at Elizabeth Baptist Church here in Atlanta. Both nights were awesome, but this post is about the 2nd night when the guest pastor was Rev. Dr. R. A. Vernon. His topic was entitled “Welcome to the One Night Stand.” During his message he reviewed his 10 Rules of Dating. I’m going to share them with you, but I strongly encourage you to buy the book. I did, and I have been blessed by it. I am even planning on sharing it with friends. In the book, each rule begins a new chapter. In that chapter are anecdotes and scripture references. Below, I have listed each rule and a few notes about that rule.

10 RULES OF DATING

Rule 1: There Must be Physical Attraction: Although looks aren’t everything, date someone with the physical attributes that you like. Are you attracted to your mate? Proverbs 5:19

Rule 2: They Must Love Jesus: Do not date anyone who does not love Jesus more than they love you. Is your mate a Christian? Amos 3:3

Rule 3: There Must be Compatibility and Connectivity: Can you talk about more than Jesus and shared interests? If you need an intellectual, get one.

Rule 4: Discuss Each Other’s Past: This will help determine the presence (or lack thereof) of emotional baggage, sexual expectations within the marriage, how they were raised, past experiences, etc. Rev. Dr. Vernon suggests asking and discussing number of sexual partners.  (My Caveat: Only do this if you think you can accept this information and not bring it up in future arguments.) There are some really wonderful people who don’t qualify for a future with you based upon past decisions (financial, sexual, etc.)

Rule 5: Discuss Children: Do you both want them; could you do without; or does he or she already have a child/children? Choosing not to date a person with children, doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you honest about the life you want with your future spouse.

Rule 6: Talk About Money:  Discuss finances. Talk about your financial reality, not your financial potential. How much money do you both have right now (not how much do you one day plan on having)?

Rule 7: Pace Yourself/Slow Down: What’s the rush?  You have nothing but time. Slowing down will allow for time to think and more importantly clearly hear from God concerning this person.

Rule 8: Engage or Disengage: Pee or get off the pot. If you are not dating with the purpose of getting married, what are you doing? Date with a purpose. You can go out for dinner and drinks with your platonic friends. After 1 year (2 at the most), you should be ready to get engaged. If not, disengage and go your separate ways.

Rule 9: Go to Counseling: Be honest about your issues. Seek individual counseling before marital counseling.

Rule 10: Don’t Touch: Rev. Dr. Vernon encourages no hugging because hugging leads to kissing, kissing leads to touching and touching leads to sex. But, a better question to ask is, “Is this person willing to wait until marriage?”

My 3 Takeaways for You:
(1)  Date Purposefully/ Date on Assignment.
(2)  Ask the important questions up front; and be prepared to cut ties if the answer is unacceptable to you.
(3)  Buy the Book.

Love, peace and blessings,

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God is Good for It

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When I was a child, one of my favorite things to do was to be read to by my parents at bedtime. One of them (I can’t remember which) bought me a book entitled “A Promise is a Promise.” They used it to teach me about the importance of keeping promises. Over the course of my life, I’m sure I have broken a promise or two, as you probably have too. When someone breaks a promise it hurts. It hurts your feelings. It hurts your heart, especially if you are especially close to the promise breaker.

Often, the devil tries to test your faith, especially when a promise is broken. Someone may promise you a job or a promotion, but then they change their mind. Another person may promise to do something for or with you, but then flake. Your spouse or partner may loyalty and faithfulness, but then he or she has an emotional or physical affair. People can be fickle, especially as it relates to loyalties, affection and likes and dislikes. But, something that we can rest assured of is that God never breaks a promise. He is not fickle. We can ask him for something that His word tells us is ours (ex. the desires of our heart) and know that he will make good on that promise. The answer or response we want may not come as quickly as we like. So, we wait and we wait. Then we wait some more. Sometimes we get anxious or impatient and try to take matters into our own hands. That never works – at least not long term. No amount of planning, plotting, manipulating or scheming can ever get us (and keep us) where God’s grace and mercy can take us. He always make good on his promises. He is faithful. His word is tried and true.

If we delight in The Lord, he will give us the desires of our heart (Psalm 37:4). He is not a man that he should lie nor the son of man that he should change his mind (Numbers 23:19). If we don’t have what we want or what we feel we need. Wait on God. He is good for it. We only have to:

  • Wait Patiently
  • Wait Expectantly
  • Wait with a Heart Filled with Praise

As I was working on this post, I decided to share some tried and true verses. These verses are those that I have tried and as a result, know their promises to be true.

Malachi 3:10 (NIV) – “Bring your whole tithe into the store house, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says The Lord Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it.”
1 Corinthians 1:9 (NIV) – God will do this, for he is faithful to do what he says, …. and he has invited you into partnership with his son, Jesus Christ our Lord.
Philippians 1:6 (NIV) – Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry t on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.
James 4:7-8 (NIV) – Submit yourselves to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you…

I don’t know about you, but I don’t mind waiting on something when I know that with God, a promise is a promise and that he is good for it.

P.S. About the sunflower – I made sunflower centerpieces for a baby shower today, and I have become obsessed with their beauty, resilience and sturdiness. So, I thought I’d brighten your day by sharing with you.

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Purposeful Pursuit

It has been a while. I know. But, during the brief hiatus, I have still been writing, I just haven’t been sharing. I have also been doing a lot of thinking. I have been thinking about my life and my health and how those are tied to and reflective of my relationship with God.

A few months ago, I REALLY wanted egg nog. I craved it so much that I went to 4 different stores looking for it. The only problem was that I didn’t NEED it. It is full of calories and sugar that I definitely don’t need in my life. As I was driving back home from the 4th and final store, this thought came to mind – wouldn’t it be great if we pursued God with such intentionality.

The human side of us/our flesh causes us to pursue things we want that aren’t good for us. They aren’t intrinsically bad either, but we want them before God is ready for us to have them. The human side of us causes us to be impatient – seeking immediate gratification. You see that cake – you want it. You’ll figure out how many minutes of cardio it will take to burn the cake off later. You see that purse, car or house – you want it. You’ll figure out how to actually afford it after you’ve walked out of the store, driven off the lot, or signed the mortgage paper work. You see that guy – you want him. You try to convince God of how perfect you two would be together. The Holy Spirit encourages us to draw near to God. Draw near to God and he will draw near to you (James 4:8). As we draw to God, we will learn to be more patient and more reliant upon God’s perfect timing.

Sometimes, we get so caught up trying to adhere to our plans, dreams and goals that we fail to purposefully pursue God, pray for his will and be obedient to his direction. Today, still yourself before God, pray and listen for his direction and be obedient to His will.

What’s Next
Over the next several days, I invite you to journey with me as I offer tips to use in our purposeful pursuit of God and his will for our lives.

We will look at Purposeful Pursuit of God in:
1) Our Hearts
2) Bible Study
3) Prayer
4) Everyday Life
5) Our Purpose

There will be a key verse of scripture for each post, along with a hashtag in the event you want to tweet or post a status related to the way you are purposefully pursuing God. Today’s hashtag is #purposefulpursuit.

Be blessed,

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He Keeps on Blessing Me

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I am pleased, no ecstatic, to announce the launching of AKingdomCreation.com. I would say that we are a few days behind schedule, but everything happens on time and in God’s time. Because of God, I was able to push aside my fears and step out on faith.

I have to say a very big thank you to all my family members and friends, especially my parents and my work twin, who tested product after product after product. Thank you to everyone who gave their opinion regarding design features and product packaging. And, I owe a huge thank you and debt of gratitude to those 3 very special people who assisted in making this dream come true. You are ALL loved and appreciated!

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Peace and thanks,

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Word of the Year…Surrender (revisited)

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Happy New Year’s Eve. This year has been amazingly awesome – just like the God I/we serve. I have learned and experienced a lot in 12 short months – more than I could or would have ever imagined.

Today is the 1 year anniversary of The Kingdom Chick blog! Amen! I pray that something I have written has blessed you in some small way AND brought glory to God.

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My 2012 word of the year was surrender. This year, I have made conscious efforts to surrender, so HE is free to flow. Surrender is an extreme act of trust in God. This year I have purposed to surrender to God’s will for my life by letting Go and letting God do what he does (without any interference from me.) 🙂 I am not where I need or want to be, but I am becoming better at surrendering each day. In a few weeks, my website http://www.AKingdomCreation.com will launch. Because of that and so many other wonderful things in my life, I am awestruck by God’s amazing grace. So, it seemed fitting that my 2014 word of the year be PRAISE (more on that in the coming days).

I’m off to watch night service. See ya next year!

Peace & Blessings,

Nefertara

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P.P.S. I have added a new recipe – Crawfish Cornbread – the first one in months. Check it out here.

Building A Championship Team

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THIS IS MY 50th POST!!! Wooo hoooo!  God is awesome!! Ok.  On to today’s post.

“If you want anything done right, do it yourself.”

I don’t know who coined that phrase, but that is frequently my mentality. I often think that no one can do the things I need and want done like I can. That may be because I (1) am a perfectionist in certain areas, (2) am my biggest critic and (3)hold myself to impossible standards. Because of this mentality, there are many days where I feel as though I am barely keeping my head above water. There are other days when I say I just need two of me. 🙂 That would be something. LOL

As some of you know, I am working on starting a business. This week, my work twin introduced me to Myleik Teele (and her podcasts). In the podcasts Myleik offers helpful advice for those who are thinking about starting businesses. The podcasts are short, all under 10 minutes, which is great for me because I have limited time and a more limited attention span if I have to sit still too long. You can listen to them here. (There are about 12, so you could listen to them all in 1 day, if you listen while doing other things, like I did.) I digress. Back to the point. Myleik shared a thought that her father shared with her – “If you want a championship team, you need championship players.” Your championship players are people who are strong in areas where you are weak (or just plain disinterested). That struck a cord with me. It made me think. That very afternoon, I asked my social media savvy friend to assist me with social media. I also spoke to another friend about marketing. Building a championship team all boils down to being humble enough to ask for help.

Now, more than ever, I realize there is value in paying for convenience (especially when it is something I am not skilled in) or in my case asking for and/or accepting help from family and friends who are skilled in certain areas. There are only 24 hours in each day. The way I calculate it, I have to work at least 9 of those hours Monday – Friday, and I’d like to sleep for 7 of the remaining hours. That leaves only 8 hours for EVERYTHING (grooming, eating, quality time with God, driving to and from work and quality with Ivori :-)) else. And that doesn’t include errands, church on Wednesdays and Sundays, meetings for different organizations and other things that pop up.

Earlier this year I wrote about exhaustion and busyness – Busyness Does Not Equal Greatness. So, you’d think I would not be as busy since I realize that busyness does not equal greatness. But, there is this mystical pull that lures me to attempt to be the perfect woman, superwoman or the quintessential Proverbs 31 woman. Then I realize, no one is perfect, and since superman was weakened by kyrptonite, superwoman has weaknesses too. Even the highly respected Proverbs 31 woman had help – servant girls (Proverbs 31:15).

As I continue this awesome journey to becoming the very best Kingdom Chick that God intends for me to be, I realize that I must ask for and accept assistance from others. More importantly, I remind myself that I must ask and pray for God’s direction and assistance above all else. After all, without God I/we can do nothing (John 15:5).

Are you exhausted? If so, are you taking steps to alleviate your exhaustion? As I write this, I am tired. I still have 2 loads of clothes to fold, a dog to walk and bathe and labels to print before I go to bed. But, I will rest well knowing that I am building my championship team with God as the head coach.

Peace & blessings,

Nefertara